So you know that saying. You hear it all the time.. it's quoted on facebook in the Favorite Quotes section... and after every fucking breakup....
"Nice guys finish last"
First of all.. any guy who says this? Isn't a nice guy. There's a front.A dramatic weepy front.He may not be king of the assholes... but it's like calling yourself out for being modest.. "I'm the most modest person I know!" Seriously, come on.
It's again, all a game. I'm going to use my ex a lot in this episode of episodes... only because he's my ex. And I couldn't put my finger on why it bothered me so much when he'd say it... but now I get it.
Ya know those geeky card games that have like a gazillion rules? Each card has a weapon or spell or... black magic super power.. or a magical bunny...? You keep your cards to bring out in battle. In a war. To beat the other person down, so you can win and stand on top. You toss your cards down in victory and your baffled apponent if left speechless. As if they never saw it coming. They hang their head in defeat. You go off to celebrate by having your mom upstairs bring down some sandwiches and Mountain Dew. Seriously, loser.. get a job.. you're 36 years old...
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Anyways. I've finally figured out that my ex was doing this to me. He would almost tally good deeds. Keep them locked up and saved until we had a fight. Then it would come out. We could be fighting about anything. And it would turn into me being a total unappreciative bitch. To which, as a woman, of course distracted me from the actual fight to defend my (what used to be) good name! He'd remind me of flowers for no reason, doing the dishes one night, making me dinner another night, taking me out to a movie, bringing me a present back from the mall, visiting me at work.... Things like that. That would come out. Things that are indeed very nice! But.. but why? Aren't you supposed to do nice things for people when you're dating them? Isn't that kind of the point? You like someone... you're nice to them.. you DO things for them... you do all these things. You do them because you WANT to. Not because it could be used for evil later... to me that negated the nice deed all together! You play yours cards to hurt your opponent. Not Nice.
This brings me on to my next section...:
Why People Date Ass Hats
We do this because we're scared. I've been hurt. You've been hurt. We've ALL been hurt! We date people who continue to hurt us because they're predictable. They're selfish. Or cocky. Or insensitive.Or just a downright bitch 24/7. Yes all of this suuuucks but we know what we're getting ourselves into. We expect assholish, selfish, cocky, insensitive quirks and when they do something nice, sweet, selfless, or thoughtful... It's almost praised. Otherwise we get a "nice guy" who is wonderful and perfect but then has a secret weapon. Something you don't expect. And though they're nice and wonderful and good 97% of the time... it catches you off guard and you're disappointed as fuck.
In my experience... the nice guys have words that burn like venom. They've been burned before. They've seen it. They don't want it to happen again. The nice guys put their foot down, bring out the battalion and hurt more than any ass hat ever did. The ass hat, after all.. is an ass hat.
I'm getting to an age now where I'm really hoping all of this nonsense goes out the door. If you're an ass hat? Be an ass hat. If you're a nice guy? Be a nice guy.
Nice guys be warned. I'm an unappreciative bitch.
